Reasons to Let Them Go

It seems I’ve fallen off blogging regularly this week but I’m super focused on a multitude of personal things including my son’s wedding. I’m also putting a lot of time and attention into my Enneagram sessions. The same item that seems to come up is toxic relationships and/or relationship changes. It’s not surprising to learnContinue reading “Reasons to Let Them Go”

It’s Not Personal

I think one of the hardest lessons to learn in life is that nothing anyone does has to do with you. Years ago I read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, his second agreement to make with yourself is Don’t Take Anything Personally. It’s also part of the Enneagram platform. Understanding ourselves and theContinue reading “It’s Not Personal”

People Change Pictures Don’t

When I first started in the automotive business in the early 90s, I sold vehicles in Nashville TN. Across the street from the dealership was a strip club where I sold several vehicles to the dancers. One, in particular, bought several from me. I’ll never forget her. She was stunningly gorgeous. She had real authenticContinue reading “People Change Pictures Don’t”

Thrown Out Like Bubble Gum

I was listening to the great Wayne Dyer the other day. He was telling a story about how he and his brother had been orphaned. His dad was an alcoholic and abandoned them. Wayne spoke of his addiction to drugs and alcohol. He says he went to his father’s grave to piss on it whenContinue reading “Thrown Out Like Bubble Gum”

Why We Settle

Recently I was sharing part of my story with an acquaintance. As I spoke of my childhood abandonment, my relationships with narcissists, and my awakening, the new acquaintance looked at me as if they had no idea what I was saying. They finally said, “I had a perfect childhood.” I bought their statement. It’s notContinue reading “Why We Settle”

Survivors or Superheroes

I identify as a survivor. On each Dealing to Healing social media platform, my bio reads the same, “Survivor of abandonment, narcissists relationships, trauma & addiction.” The first definition of survivor is a person who survives, especially a person remaining alive after an event in which others have died. A second definition is a personContinue reading “Survivors or Superheroes”

Deflection Behavior

Do you know someone who will get mad about something simple? Have you ever told someone something and they changed their attitude towards you but you didn’t know why? Have you ever shared something and the next thing you know they are bringing up something from the past? I have experienced all of these situations.Continue reading “Deflection Behavior”

Are You in a Toxic Relationship?

It’s time to do some more red flags 🚩 on toxic folks, particularly narcissists. We don’t have to have a degree or piece of paper to analyze toxic people. If we know the traits and characteristics then we can assume if the shoe fits then they are wearing it. Unless you’ve lived it, walked theContinue reading “Are You in a Toxic Relationship?”

🚩 What Is The Silent Treatment🚩

I’m on a roll with narcissists lately because I’ve been exposed recently and it’s reminded me of my former life. I think the biggest trait that I’ve seen in my narcissists is the silent treatment. When I was a child I saw my mother give multiple people the silent treatment. She wouldn’t talk to themContinue reading “🚩 What Is The Silent Treatment🚩”

🚩 What Is A Narcissist? 🚩

I’ve learned so many don’t know what a narcissist is and therefore cannot identify the characteristics of one. I find this common, especially in older generations. Being a narcissist is different than having narcissism. According to my shrink, we all have a little narcissism in us. Selfies are a great example. Showing new houses, cars,Continue reading “🚩 What Is A Narcissist? 🚩”