People Change Pictures Don’t

When I first started in the automotive business in the early 90s, I sold vehicles in Nashville TN. Across the street from the dealership was a strip club where I sold several vehicles to the dancers. One, in particular, bought several from me. I’ll never forget her. She was stunningly gorgeous. She had real authentic beauty. She was dancing to pay her way through college. I didn’t see her for a long time and the next time I did see her, she looked awful. She looked sick, dirty, and old, she looked as if something had happened to her. I later found out she was on crack.

Do you know that when you are in relationships with toxic folks that are negative, manipulative, practice gaslighting, and are deceptive, you’ll look the same as a drug addict? Toxic is toxic! It doesn’t matter if the toxic elements attack your body or your mind and soul. Think of crack houses, they are dark, dirty, broken, and ugly. Toxic people are also dark, broken, and dirty with their deception and manipulation and the pain they cause is so ugly.

I often say “People change but pictures don’t.” Once you take or snap the picture, that’s it. It forever stays just as it was taken. If you look back on pictures you’ll see times in your life when you look better or worse. I can look back and see where my face tells the truth even through my smile. I’m smiling but I’m in pain. I’m smiling but I’m not happy. I’m smiling but I’ve been exposed to toxic elements.

True, authentic, unfiltered pictures do not lie. They tell the truth about us. They will tell us if we are truly happy or in pain. Even those pictures from our childhood tell a story. And if we see our pain in the picture then think about how painful it was in real life. Reminds me of the song by Jamey Johnson, In Color. The lyrics go like this…

That’s the story of my life
Right there in black and white

And if it looks like we were scared to death
Like a couple of kids just tryna save each other
You should’ve seen it in color
Yeah, a picture’s worth a thousand words
But you can’t see what those shades of gray keep covered
You should’ve seen it in color

Published by Dana

Creative writer about my life and life lessons. Survivor of abandonment, addiction, narcissist relationships, and trauma. Still dealing while I'm healing. Thank you Jesus!

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