Yesterday I blogged about not giving your power away by having boundaries. You empower yourself by holding your boundaries or you give your power to others by not having boundaries. Here’s what else happens when you don’t have boundaries, resentment. Yes! Resentment comes when you don’t have boundaries. We allow someone to do something thatContinue reading “The Domino Effect”
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Who’s Got The Remote Control?
More conversations….I frequently hear, “they can’t do that”, “he better not”, “she needs to do this or that”, we are putting our wish list on others that we have no control over what they do or don’t do. I have a friend that got hit on by a guy. She had zero interest in havingContinue reading “Who’s Got The Remote Control?”
Sorry Does Not Mean Changed
Recently I had 2 conversations about this exact quote. The word “sorry” means absolutely nothing to me. For me, it is a word used to manipulate the victim. It allows someone to put the victim back in a position so they can do the same thing to them again. It’s a narcissist’s favorite word. SayingContinue reading “Sorry Does Not Mean Changed”
Delayed Gratification > Instant Gratification
Last Sunday I listened to a sermon called “Delayed Gratification”. Bishop talked about how instant gratification has taken priority in our lives. We want instant “likes”, “follows” and go viral videos. If we can’t lose weight by pulling away and working it off, we take a pill, a shake, wanting it instantly. We have becomeContinue reading “Delayed Gratification > Instant Gratification”
Kenya
There was a time in my life that I was overwhelmed because I couldn’t say “no” to the ones closest to me. I felt I had to do as asked because nobody else would do it or it was my duty. I would do it all while gritting my teeth, exhausting myself, and having resentment.Continue reading “Kenya”
Boundaries to Empower Yourself
I was born to a narcissist caretaker. The only time I was given what I needed in love and acceptance is when I was putting all my energy into them. It was what she liked, she wanted, she needed, her time, her place, everything was based on her feelings and the world revolved around her.Continue reading “Boundaries to Empower Yourself”
Take Responsibility
As I continue to heal, I have lots of questions, and the one burning question I had for my shrink last week, “It’s not a narcissist fault that they are a narcissist, any more than it is my fault for my wounds. So why do we have to block, cut them off, fence ourselves inContinue reading “Take Responsibility”
Quit Watering Weeds
On average, I get 10-15 calls/texts from spam, robocalls & time wasters. I block them as soon as I see the missed call/text. I don’t want them in my phone or taking up space in my life. Shout out to the person that invented “block”, the best thing ever invented. That “block” prevents triggers, allowsContinue reading “Quit Watering Weeds”
Dropped Off At A Doorstep
Sunday I was watching church online. Bishop prayed for a man that had lost his child. As Bishop prayed for the man, he broke down and cried, his cry was painful to hear. You could hear the pain, the hurt in his voice as he almost screamed through his tears. I was so touched andContinue reading “Dropped Off At A Doorstep”
I’m a Sinner and I Like It That Way
“I’m a sinner and I like it that way.” That’s a quote I don’t hear directly but I hear it indirectly almost daily. Somewhere along the way the “church” and the “Christians” have set precedence to our society that if you do blah blah blah then you are NOT a Christian and if you doContinue reading “I’m a Sinner and I Like It That Way”
Dealing to Healing 