More conversations….I frequently hear, “they can’t do that”, “he better not”, “she needs to do this or that”, we are putting our wish list on others that we have no control over what they do or don’t do. I have a friend that got hit on by a guy. She had zero interest in having a romantic relationship with him. He was persistent and she didn’t hold her boundaries because she was trying to be nice. I told her that he has a job and that is to get his needs met. He’s looking for more than a platonic relationship. And she has a job and that’s to hold her boundaries and draw a line in the sand. All she can do is control it from her side because she has zero control over his side. I know she didn’t want to piss him off but loving yourself sometimes pisses people off and that is okay and sometimes to be expected.
Thats all we can do is control what we can and it’s up to each individual to hold their boundaries because everyone in this world has a job. Some are looking for love, some are trying to get their needs met, some are looking for quick money, some seek power, some want our time, and on and on and on. We can’t control their attitude, actions, behavior, how they speak to us but we can control our attitude, actions, behavior, and how we speak to people.
Holding our boundaries shows others who we are and who we are not. The more we hold our boundaries, the more our energy empowers us. When we don’t hold boundaries our energy leaks and instead of empowering ourselves we empower others to do things to us that do not feel good. Think of it as your power is within your boundaries. You are your own remote control. Handing someone a remote allows them to access everything. Let’s keep the power, hold the remote and control it from our side.