Have you ever fallen out of love? I think we all know what it’s like to fall in love. We fall in love with people, activities, things like wine, art, vehicles, furniture, soft, fuzzy blankets, and robes, but then one day we wake up and think, “I am not in love with you anymore.” AndContinue reading “The Art of Unloving: Releasing What No Longer Serves You”
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Stripped Searched
It’s been nearly a year since the familiar rhythm of writing flowed through me. I felt abandoned, much like countless other losses I have endured. It’s taken me this long to understand my experience and my journey this past year. A year ago, my health took an unexpected turn. After spending a week in theContinue reading “Stripped Searched”
Lesson 100000000000000006
Yesterday I spent over 7 hours at a medical appointment. What I thought was going to be a simple process turned out to be a lot more detailed than what I could imagine. In the past, I had done something similar but this was not the same as it was much more complicated. It wasContinue reading “Lesson 100000000000000006”
She Found Her Authentic Self
Someone asked me the other day what I teach and what type of coaching I do. I responded with one word “transformation”. I teach how to transform from who we believe we are based on generational beliefs that I call generational curses. I teach and coach people how to be their authentic selves by releasingContinue reading “She Found Her Authentic Self”
Anger Management
The abandonment wound is real. When abandonment survivors are conditioned to self-abandon and leave themselves to not rock the boat, to meet someone else’s needs, to be loved, and/or to be accepted the lines can get blurred quickly. Underlying rage and anger bleeds into fear and this is where it gets messy. We rather suppressContinue reading “Anger Management”
It’s Time When It’s the Right Timing
In 2020 after the pandemic hit, I started writing a memoir about my relationships from childhood to adulthood. I wrote raw truth that I’ve kept vaulted for the most part. In 2021 after my moving back to Atlanta I continued writing and finished a very important part of my life. I also joined a well-knownContinue reading “It’s Time When It’s the Right Timing”
Stop Normalizing “Happy”
Can we stop normalizing the word “Happy”? Yesterday was Mother’s Day and everyone keeps saying “Happy Mother’s Day” but everyone I spoke to was everything but happy. Truth be told, people are suffering. They are grieving over losses. They are suffering from the loss of their childhood, their childhood wounds, the wounds of abandonment, andContinue reading “Stop Normalizing “Happy””
Feeling disrespected or dismissed can be a particular kind of trigger for complex trauma survivors. – Use Your Damn Skills
Complex trauma survivors often have this complicated relationship with visibility. On the one hand, many of us have learned over the course of our lives that to be seen isn’t particularly safe. Many of us consequently go through adult life trying hard NOT to be seen. It makes us anxious when attention is drawn to…Continue reading “Feeling disrespected or dismissed can be a particular kind of trigger for complex trauma survivors. – Use Your Damn Skills”
Same Old Same Old
I asked someone the other day, “How are you doing?” They replied “Same ol’ same ol’.” We’ve heard that reply or something similar at least one hundred times. I’ve said it and you probably have as well. But listen and watch what you say, “Same old same old” equates to nothing changing. And if nothingContinue reading “Same Old Same Old”
My Religious Trauma
The following was written by Dr. Glennon Patrick Doyle. I have followed and “Liked” 99.9% of his posts but this one is the most relatable. I spent the first 12 years of my life in an institution that met 3 times a week. They had a church sign which made me believe they were safe.Continue reading “My Religious Trauma”
Dealing to Healing 