I asked someone the other day, “How are you doing?” They replied “Same ol’ same ol’.” We’ve heard that reply or something similar at least one hundred times. I’ve said it and you probably have as well. But listen and watch what you say, “Same old same old” equates to nothing changing. And if nothing changes, it’s stale, it’s stagnant, it’s stuck, it’s boring.
I realized the other day that I’m coming up on a year of living in my new home. As I reflect and social media reminds me of “memories” I think about what I was doing this time last year. My life looked different. Nearly every aspect of my life has changed. My address has changed, my relationships have changed, my lifestyle habits have changed, my daily schedule has changed, and all that has changed confirms to me that my life is shifting. It’s not stagnant, stale, or boring and I’m not stuck.
We tend to get caught up in life and sometimes don’t stop to realize that our life is shifting. We get focused on who and what we lost instead of the shift of what’s coming. The losses we talk about look like this…”Why did he ghost me?” “That friend never connects with me anymore!” “I lost the account/sale.” “That customer didn’t tip me.” But why we are focused on “the loss” there is something else coming. There’s a change, a shift that’s happening and it’s so slow that we don’t feel it moving or see it happening.
And if we look back and nothing has changed..it is the same old same old with relationships, finances, and our lifestyle then we need encouragement to find out why we are in a stagnant season. Stagnant seasons sometimes mean the timing isn’t right but it could also mean we are stuck. We need to examine “Are we stuck or are we just waiting on the timing?”
I’ve been in stagnant seasons too because I was stuck in the past of what I lost, who I lost, stuck in my trauma from my childhood, stuck on who abandoned me, stuck on what who left me, stuck on the job I didn’t get, stuck on the issues that haunted me.
I pray and encourage everyone reading this to examine their life. Look back on this time last year, look at your social media memories, and reflect on where you are now versus where you were this time last year. Are you growing and is life shifting? Are you stuck or waiting on the right timing?