Are you exhausted emotionally? Physically? Mentally? I find most people are one or all three. It occurred to me the other day that I am too. No matter how much sleep I get and I do consistently get 7 hours per night. But no matter how much I exercise to release stress, and no matter how much I take time outs throughout my day, I can feel exhausted.
I believe we are exhausted from the demands of life. I started the other morning full of energy, what I describe as a full gas tank but by mid-morning, I was exhausted. I had so many pulling at me rather through email, text, or phone calls that I was not seeing they were depleting my fuel. Each time we allow a source to pull at us by meeting their demands, crisis, etc..we are giving away our strength.
Remember Samson from the Bible was a man of strength but because he became distracted with Delilah and became intoxicated in what he thought was her love for him, he lost his strength to do what he needed to do for himself, to do what he was called to do. He lost his purpose, his mission, his calling. Are we losing ourselves by allowing others to manipulate us to their demands?
The only way I see that we can survive and thrive is to have boundaries. Boundaries that protect our strength and energy. Boundaries protect us, walls keep others out. We don’t have to keep others out by dismissing them but we have to protect ourselves by first not becoming distracted, like Samuel did. Two, we cannot allow others to manipulate us to their demands, crisis, or needs. Three we must say, I am not available right now, I will get back to you when I am. That my friend is called a personal boundary. It lets others know that I am not ignoring you, I am not mad at you, but I am not allowing you to take my strength.
I encourage everyone to take the first step, a baby step, and tell just one source today, I am not available right now, I will call, text, and email you back when I am able. Tell one source that I am not emotionally able to listen to you or I am not able to do it on your timeline but I can do X, Y, Z. And if they don’t respect your boundary because they are losing control of their lives, that is not your issue. They can act like the world is falling apart, well it is already falling apart so what is one more thing? Protect your strength, guard your heart and mind, stay on course, and don’t become distracted or manipulated by thinking they love you.