Author Archives: Dana Hannah

From time to time someone will ask if I’m still mad at those who didn’t take care of me while I was growing up. If I’m still angry at my collection of pasts narcissists. The answer is “some days”. I’m working on not looking back at anything past yesterday. Putting energy, time, and thoughts intoContinue reading “Quit Stirring The Pot”

Yesterday I did a check on my bucket list and that was Charleston SC. It kept coming up in conversations I had with many so I decided to come to see what the fuss was all about in the low country. My friend and I made our way downtown and went to the Market. AsContinue reading “Trauma in Charleston”

“Trauma Bonding” is a deep dive word for many. I’ll never forget the day my “shrink” told me the word. It was the word that had described my relationships with narcissists for years. I would describe it like this. I’m a fish swimming in the ocean and I see something that looks good and sparklyContinue reading “What Is Trauma Bonding?”

I’ve written about the narcissist and the silent treatment red flag 🚩. Now I’m going to tell you what happens after the silent treatment. The long days, weeks, months, or sometimes years of silence, the narcissist will come running back. They return for the “supply” they have missed. The supply is their source of energyContinue reading “Narcissists Are Running Backs”

For 20 plus years I was in automotive and around 13 years of my automotive career I was a representative calling on automotive dealers. I called myself the bartender of automotive because I listened all day to their stories. Every manager, sales rep, porter, and office personnel had a story. I listened to their wildContinue reading “Confess Our Faults One To Another”

I’m guessing that each one of you that are following me rather on my blog, social media, or personally, you connect with some part of my stories. I don’t know your story but that doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if you were abandoned emotionally or physically, if you were raised by a narcissist or hadContinue reading “A Hero”

I wish my younger self had known this quote 20, 30 years ago. If only I had told those people to sail on down the line who said “that’s your mother, that’s your sister, that’s your employer, that’s your friend”. If I had just not let those people shame and guilt me into letting theContinue reading “Removing The Toxic”

This might be a deep dive for some but I want to turn on a light to everyone. When you are born to a parent that is a narcissist, you many times become codependent because you never have a choice not to pour into that parent. Because you are wanting to be accepted and loved,Continue reading “Narcissist Parents, Codependents, & More”

Remember in school, you’d get your test back and you’d miss certain ones, or worse you made a bad grade? And you’d sit agonizing over it, looking around to see if anyone else missed the same questions or made a bad grade. And nobody wanted to say anything. Nobody wanted to be the first toContinue reading “You Are Not Alone”