I’ve written about the narcissist and the silent treatment red flag 🚩. Now I’m going to tell you what happens after the silent treatment. The long days, weeks, months, or sometimes years of silence, the narcissist will come running back. They return for the “supply” they have missed.
The supply is their source of energy which comes from different sources. Some examples are friends, family, or social media community. They need their supply to build on their grandiose delusion. They need you to give your attention, time, and energy. They will normally foreplay the situation by bringing gifts, taking you to dinner, swooning you in to get what they need. Once you’ve been sucked back in, they have won. They have your time, attention, and energy. Sometimes they will tell you some drama or some recent situation about something terrible that happened to them during the “silent treatment”. They will of course be the victim and want you to say how sorry you are for them. They need your compassion, sympathy but mostly empathy because an empath gives the energy, put themselves in the narcissist situation.
Let me be clear on the next statement, narcissists do not have empathy. They envy that they don’t have any feelings where they can place themselves in an empathic situation. If you ever cry or have a bad day, do not expect a narcissist to give you a hug, hand you a hanky or wipe your tears. They do not know what to do with folks in pain. Your job for them is to only be positive, uplifting to them, and empathize with their situation.
If any of this resonates with you, I encourage you to speak to a professional therapist. I’ve spoken to several women lately that have “thanked” me for writing about the narcissist. I’m thankful that I’m serving my purpose and the lights are coming on but you must have a therapist if you are dealing with a narcissist. Love yourself! ❤️