For 20 plus years I was in automotive and around 13 years of my automotive career I was a representative calling on automotive dealers. I called myself the bartender of automotive because I listened all day to their stories. Every manager, sales rep, porter, and office personnel had a story. I listened to their wild nights out, drugs of choice including affairs, problems with their families, health, and finances. And just like a great bartender, I kept my mouth shut. I did not repeat to the next dealership what was happening from another dealership. Nor did I judge them. I think that was a huge part of my success.
Now let me talk to mainly the women since you are 63% of my audience and women need freedom to talk and speak out our feelings and emotions. One of the reasons that we cannot heal, one of the reasons we are struggling with pain and trauma is that we are not free to confess our faults one to another. Sound familiar? James 5:16 says..
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” Why do we not feel free? Because we fear judgement but more importantly we fear lack of trust. Think about it? How many “friends” can you trust to not tell your confessions? I know mine I can count on one hand. And I’m very thankful for them.
Now to everyone if you want to make a difference with those you know and don’t know, listen and zip it. We shouldn’t have to pay a therapist because they are legally bound to keep their mouth shut and not judge us. We shouldn’t go just to speak freely. We should go there for guidance. I pray you to receive this and the next time someone wants to confess something, that we remember this story and do the best thing we can do for another human. Let them talk freely so they may heal without judgment and their story being repeated.