Yesterday I did a check on my bucket list and that was Charleston SC. It kept coming up in conversations I had with many so I decided to come to see what the fuss was all about in the low country.
My friend and I made our way downtown and went to the Market. As we approached the building my friend informed me that the building had been a slave market and many retail centers in the area were formerly the same. As I walked into the building my energy immediately started stifling. It was painful to walk and see so many white people shopping, laughing, and enjoying a place where humans had previously been sold. It just didn’t feel right to dismiss the thought that I was walking on bloodshed ground where human beings had been exploited. We left immediately.
I want to relate my feeling to the survivors of narcissist relationships. We too were exploited for another human being’s image. The white man exploited slaves for his image and the narcissist exploits supply for their image. While they look different and are completely different, each situation is traumatic. The only pain we know is the pain we know. We can’t compare or measure emotional pain. Our devil is our devil on our level and unless we recognize our trauma, sit with our pain, and quit stuffing it and burying it, we cannot heal. Here are some examples of traumas that we may have:
- Emotional neglect
- Gaslighting
- Harassment
- Invalidation
- Poverty
- Domestic Violence
- Bullying
- Chronic Illmess
- Medical Trauma
- Racism
- Heterosexism
- Sexism
- Weight Stigma
- Social Isolation
- Parentfication
Many of us have more than one trauma and it gets messy. Here’s the better news, nobody is alone. Others are dealing with the same thing you’re dealing with in the trauma department. Age, sex, race does not separate us when it comes to trauma. My prayer is for me, and you are to take a little tiny baby step towards healing each day. That the older generations break generational curses and the younger generations utilize technology and today’s tools to educate all of us. It’s a must that we love ourselves and we recognize that everyone has trauma and nobody is alone in their pain. ❤️
Dealing to Healing 