#DealingtoHealing – Page 25 – Dealing to Healing

🚩Red Flag Review🚩

If you have been resonating with the red flag posts regarding the traits or characteristics of a narcissist, then I just want to review for those who may have missed one, two or the entirety. 🚩Caretaker was a Narcissist – First I think it’s important to know how the one was raised. If the caretakerContinue reading “🚩Red Flag Review🚩”

🚩 The Grinch Is A Narcissist

Narcissists do not like any holiday or special occasion that takes the focus off them. From my childhood thru adulthood, Christmas, birthday, or any other holiday was never special. I was lucky to have it celebrated. If I heard “it’s just another day” from my mother once I heard it at least a thousand times.Continue reading “🚩 The Grinch Is A Narcissist”

🚩Control Freak or Narcissist

Get your checklist out and put the word “control” down. Narcissists love control. Every narcissist I know or had a relationship with has been controlling. You will be a squirrel in their world. Going back and forth across the street because they control everything. They always have the television remote. And it’s their show, theirContinue reading “🚩Control Freak or Narcissist”

The Voice Of Abandonment

There is a voice inside of an abandoned child that cannot speak as an adult. The voice that can’t speak because they fear they may be abandoned, not loved, or betrayed. It’s a learned pattern that grows with the child. As an adult, the abandonment wound still exists and the adult cannot say what theyContinue reading “The Voice Of Abandonment”

🚩What Is Gaslighting? 🚩

I’ve had several people ask me about gaslighting. They want to understand it and they want to know more. I can only share my experiences with you from my past relationships. One example is I’ve had narcissists do name-calling and then say “I was just joking”. When they name call, first that is no wayContinue reading “🚩What Is Gaslighting? 🚩”

Mental Health Days Are Okay

Those are not my actual words from my therapist but I am an advocate for mental health days. Sometimes it’s just too much to face the world, open your door and expose yourself to environments that may hurt you. These are the words I told one of the tribe members recently. I told her thatContinue reading “Mental Health Days Are Okay”

Judas Amongst Us

This past week has been hell! I’ve told y’all that I am aware that connections are not coincidental and people come into your life for a reason. Well as real as there are unknown angels among us, there are devils and powers of evil searching for a soul to devour. It’s the critically wounded thatContinue reading “Judas Amongst Us”

Who Is Drowning?

One thing I’ve concluded on my journey is that when one is drowning they don’t know who else is drowning. When one is overwhelmed with grief, depression, sadness, or their stuff they never look around to see who else is drowning. Our emotional drowning is much like our physical drowning. If we are drowning orContinue reading “Who Is Drowning?”

F Is For Dysfunctional Family

Here’s a snippet from my memoir that I am working on diligently. It’s a painful process but it will get done and it will be a tell all.

🚩 What Is A Narcissist? 🚩

I’ve learned so many don’t know what a narcissist is and therefore cannot identify the characteristics of one. I find this common, especially in older generations. Being a narcissist is different than having narcissism. According to my shrink, we all have a little narcissism in us. Selfies are a great example. Showing new houses, cars,Continue reading “🚩 What Is A Narcissist? 🚩”