Dana Hannah

Window Shopping

I believe we have to look at toxic people/relationships like we are window shopping. Have you ever walked on a car lot and dreamed of exotic vehicles or walked by high-end designer stores and only looked in the window because you knew you couldn’t afford the price tag? You dreamed and imagined yourself in itContinue reading “Window Shopping”

The Other Side

In the words of one of my tribe members, “I’ve been feeling some kind of way lately.” I didn’t know what I was feeling exactly but I stopped long enough to sit with it to find out it’s called “grief”. I have underlying grief this time of year due to both my parents passing betweenContinue reading “The Other Side”

From “Can’t” to “Won’t”

Many years ago my shrink asked me to take the word “can’t” out of my vocabulary. She corrected me every time I said “I can’t do this anymore.” or anytime I put “can’t” in a sentence. She asked that I replace it with “won’t” or “will not” because “can’t” means I don’t have control. WeContinue reading “From “Can’t” to “Won’t””

From Pity Party To Praying

The other day I had a conversation with someone I know very well and they said a few things that sounded like they were searching for compassion, encouragement and they needed reinforcement. Instead of doing those actions, I asked this, “Why are you victim-minded right now?” They got very quiet and then in a strongContinue reading “From Pity Party To Praying”

Pay It Forward By Helping Others

As you may have read, I’ve ignored and dismissed my energy and intuition for years. I’ve been in therapy for over a decade and heard but did not always listen. Many times I was in denial. The one thing that has helped me most is others sharing their personal stories. I’ve listened, read, watched soContinue reading “Pay It Forward By Helping Others”

🚩Red Flag Review🚩

If you have been resonating with the red flag posts regarding the traits or characteristics of a narcissist, then I just want to review for those who may have missed one, two or the entirety. 🚩Caretaker was a Narcissist – First I think it’s important to know how the one was raised. If the caretakerContinue reading “🚩Red Flag Review🚩”

🚩 The Grinch Is A Narcissist

Narcissists do not like any holiday or special occasion that takes the focus off them. From my childhood thru adulthood, Christmas, birthday, or any other holiday was never special. I was lucky to have it celebrated. If I heard “it’s just another day” from my mother once I heard it at least a thousand times.Continue reading “🚩 The Grinch Is A Narcissist”

🚩Control Freak or Narcissist

Get your checklist out and put the word “control” down. Narcissists love control. Every narcissist I know or had a relationship with has been controlling. You will be a squirrel in their world. Going back and forth across the street because they control everything. They always have the television remote. And it’s their show, theirContinue reading “🚩Control Freak or Narcissist”

The Voice Of Abandonment

There is a voice inside of an abandoned child that cannot speak as an adult. The voice that can’t speak because they fear they may be abandoned, not loved, or betrayed. It’s a learned pattern that grows with the child. As an adult, the abandonment wound still exists and the adult cannot say what theyContinue reading “The Voice Of Abandonment”

🚩What Is Gaslighting? 🚩

I’ve had several people ask me about gaslighting. They want to understand it and they want to know more. I can only share my experiences with you from my past relationships. One example is I’ve had narcissists do name-calling and then say “I was just joking”. When they name call, first that is no wayContinue reading “🚩What Is Gaslighting? 🚩”