From “Can’t” to “Won’t”

Many years ago my shrink asked me to take the word “can’t” out of my vocabulary. She corrected me every time I said “I can’t do this anymore.” or anytime I put “can’t” in a sentence. She asked that I replace it with “won’t” or “will not” because “can’t” means I don’t have control. We are what we tell ourselves and each time we say “we can’t” we are telling ourselves and others that we do not have control.

We are as we think and so many times it’s our voices of the past that dictate what we think we are not capable of doing but we are capable if we just stop saying “can’t”. Fear, insecurity, and “can’t” are all cousins. They have a reunion in our head daily and the only entertainment they get is us entertaining them. I’m learning on my journey to face my fears. Doing and saying things I never thought I was capable of doing or saying. Pushing myself to get unstuck so I can be healthier and happier.

Challenge yourself one time a week, one time a day. The more you do it the easier it gets. Just like riding a bike, every time you get better and better. Say it with me…”I’m not stuck because I can’t, I’m stuck because I won’t.” Sounds different, doesn’t it?

Published by Dana

Creative writer about my life and life lessons. Survivor of abandonment, addiction, narcissist relationships, and trauma. Still dealing while I'm healing. Thank you Jesus!

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