Someone asked me the other day what I teach and what type of coaching I do. I responded with one word “transformation”. I teach how to transform from who we believe we are based on generational beliefs that I call generational curses. I teach and coach people how to be their authentic selves by releasing our inner critic, which include our thoughts, beliefs, fears, insecurities, opinions, wounds and how to understand ourselves. And how do we get there? Awareness. Practicing being conscious instead of being on automatic pilot.
I will follow up and say it’s not for everyone. If anyone believes they have no room for growth due to their life is perfect then this might not be for the perfect people. It takes a hungry person that wants to better themselves emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to commit. It takes a level of self-awareness that sometimes will bring tears streaming down your face when you get real. It takes an open heart to allow compassion for yourself while removing guilt, shame, and judgment.
If we worked as hard on ourselves as we did trying to change others including exclusion and cancel culture, can you imagine that perfect world? The reason we try to change others instead of ourselves is because we believe it’s easier. It is definitely not as painful.
As I tell my participants. We lie to ourselves daily. We say we’ve gained 5 lbs when the scale says 15 lbs. But that’s too painful so we go with it’s not that bad or that much. We avoid suffering while we are suffering. It’s like a hamster on a wheel. If we keep doing the same thing over and over then there’s no change, no new direction, no growth, and no transformation.
Understanding our authentic selves is the greatest gift we can give ourselves. Not just ourselves but our children and their children, our families, and our friends. It’s the gift that keeps on giving and living for generations long after we’ve passed. I want my tombstone to read “ She found her authentic self.”
Dealing to Healing 