One of the most challenging lessons I believe we keep repeating because we are not getting it is “Expectation”. Expectations are attachments to outcomes from people and things.
Every day I tell myself “Don’t expect” because I know if I expect then I have an attachment to how I want the outcome. And if the outcome isn’t how I envisioned it then it’s only my disappointment that I must endure.
And if you’re thinking I’m not a positive thinker then you are correct. I’m a hopeful reality thinker. Reality is knowing that we cannot change or control anyone or anything but ourselves. Reality is knowing that folks are not going to always live up to what we need.
“I can’t be frustrated by things I don’t expect.” ~ T.D. Jakes
Expectations can also lead to resentment. We go from expecting someone to fulfill our want, need, dream, or desire to disappointment because they did not fulfill it so now we are angry because they didn’t do as we expected them to do. And depending on our health level that anger can turn into bitter resentment and unforgivable behavior.
Luke 6:35 “Love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return…”
There is also the controlling side of expectation. We are controlling the outcome and not allowing it to be bigger or better than our ceiling. If a man asks me to bring him a box to hold his million dollars cash, I’m going to bring him a box to hold 2 million or 10 million because I’m hoping he gets more cash. I’m not expecting that’s all the cash he has or will receive so I bring him a bigger box.
Hope attaches to faith.
“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”
We all need hope and to remain hopeful but release ourselves from expectations that will only lead to the root of our control issues, disappointments, heartbreaks, anger, and resentments.