When 8/28/2021

When
When did it change? You know what I’m talking about if you’re a Boomer or Gen X. When did we get permission and so brazen to discuss politics openly. When I was growing up it was a rule “never discuss politics or religion” outside the home. I never remember anyone in my family having conversations about it. I vaguely remember the Watergate scandal and the conversations about that but never anything else. And when did we feel so free to call people names to their face? I see it on all social media platforms, people calling other people “stupid”, “idiot” “crazy”. I was raised not to call people names. Sure I heard name calling but never to anyone’s face. My dad thought everyone was a “jackass”.

And when did we become comfortable with violence? I was taught at home and in school to never touch anyone. Yes! There has always been domestic abuse in homes but that was and still is hidden. I’m talking about the violence we continually see on the tube. The violence on social media that we just scroll past because we have become numb to it. You know you can over expose yourself to things so much that you become numb. A porn or sex addict will testify to that. Is that what happened? We’ve been exposed so much little by little, bit by bit that it no longer impacts us? Have we really lost and compromised our core values to join this army of hate and anger?

And here’s the thing, it’s our generations that is doing it. No, not all of it but WE should not be doing it at all because we know better. We were raised better. We had scruples, core values, real home raising, church camp and Sunday school pushed through our veins. We knew better to name call or fight someone just because. We better have a damn good reason if we went there. I know because I had to think of a few myself.

And really what’s the point in all of it? You won because you called someone a worse name than they called you? You feel better, seen and heard? Newsflash..if that makes you feel more powerful and better, you got more than name calling going on. Check your insides.
Have we really become this? If so I don’t know when.

If they do it once, they’ll do it again (8/28/2021)

I had a conversation with a friend of mine the other day. We were discussing when people manipulate you. The first time they do it does not mean it was a mistake or a one and done. No! That means they are testing you to see if they can get by with it. To see if they will get caught. That’s what they do.

Manipulators manipulate!

They never take responsibility, they blame circumstances and other people but never themselves. They don’t value people, no matter what you do for them. They seek out empaths with kind and generous hearts and exploit their qualities. They create drama and then play victim to circumstances. It’s all part of the calculated, manipulation plan. They respect no boundaries. They expect you to set yourself on fire to keep them warm. Don’t ever think it’s a one time deal. It’s a test for you and a try for them. You know the saying, “ happens once, shame on you, if it happens twice, shame on me.” #dealingtohealing

Healing yourself can be offensive

A friend recently sent this to me. I have read it several times. As I read it, I think about people in my past that took advantage of my lack of boundaries, my lack of self respect, of me walking on eggshells to keep from rocking the boat, saying “yes” while biting my tongue and really meaning “no”. Allowing them to push me into guilt and shame. Using fear based doctrine to manage me. Being controlling and gas lighting me. And now, none of those people are in my life. I took my life back and control of my life and one by one they left. When I stopped walking on egg shells, started honoring my feelings, speaking up and out, saying no and giving zero reason why, and setting boundaries that were clear, they disappeared. People will stay around and hang out as long as you let your brokenness benefit them. I encourage you to do a check list of who is benefiting and start being offensive to them.

The importance of listening to intuition

I want to explain the importance of intuition, of listening to your gut. Not long ago, I prayed a prayer like I’ve never prayed. It was a prayer of surrender. And in this prayer I asked that God send messengers to tell me what I should do. I don’t profess to be a person to say I hear God’s voice or even that I’m smart enough to know. All I know is I asked for messengers. Within a month of my prayer, 5 people delivered the message of what I needed to hear. These people had no idea and nothing about what is going on in my life. One I’ve never even met. All they knew is they acted on what they felt. As each one told me the very thing, I had prayed about, I knew they were the messengers. I’ve contacted 3 out of 5 to let them know they were a messenger and the importance of their act. They acted on their intuition and it was a game changer for me. If you feel lead to speak something good to someone, give them something, offer them something, show them something, don’t question it. Act on it! You may be the answer they are waiting on to answer their prayer. And I don’t care what your relationship is with God or if you even have a relationship. God uses everyone. I literally had an atheist help answer a prayer for me last year. They didn’t know they were being used to help answer a prayer, they just acted on their intuition and their gut. Don’t resist the voice that doesn’t use words. #dealingtohealing

Magic mirror on the wall (8/24/2021)

“Mirror mirror on the wall”, we all know this childhood fairy tale. It’s well liked because the bad person dies and the good people live. I think it’s all the morals of the story that we love. We all know a queen, the one who wants it or thinks it’s just about her every single day. She is controlling and a narcissist. Shes a wannabe killer of good energy, an empath’s kind heart, compassion, and genuine concern. She wears a mask and disguises herself as good but still is poison to those that are a threat to her. You would think after decades of this fairy tale being told that people would know that you do reap what you sow and the truth is always revealed. The mirror may work temporarily, just like the magic mirror but eventually the truth will be told. It’s really more than a fairy tale, it’s real life. You cannot think it’s all about you and mistreat people and remain invincible. It’s not possible. Even the huntsman’s conscience got the best of him and betrayed the queen. There may be those who you think are in your corner but will switch sides just to do the right thing. What’s the right thing? If you would not want it done to you, your child, your family, your friends, then why would you expect it to be ok if you do it to others. Let’s not forget the fairy tale of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, maybe some need to read it again and know that one day the mirror will not lie and the truth will be revealed for you are not really the fairest of them all. #dealingtohealing

My Journey 8/23/2021

Ive been on a journey for 8 days today. Its my healing journey. Words cannot describe what I have felt every single day. It’s as though I’ve reinvented myself. Ive left the past behind, trying to heal from old wounds and traumas, asking guidance from above through people I meet everyday. If you pay attention to the signs, you can find answers as God speaks to us, in us and through us. Each person I meet is not coincidental, they know something, I don’t know. I’m staying open, not judging it, and embracing love that surrounds me. It is indescribable when you find your purpose and you know your life has changed for the better and nothing, absolutely nothing behind you is better than anything that is coming for you. All that I imagined my future that would be, should be or could be does not compare to what it is now and going to be. I don’t know who needs this but if you are in a situation that does not bring you joy and peace every day, get out and find it. Find your purpose. Quit getting lost in other people, jobs, addictions and things that are not fulfilling. Never think you are not worthy enough. Take a leap and jump because there are far better things ahead than the things you leave behind. #dealingtohealing

David’s Prayer (8/22/2021)

The 23rd chapter of Psalms was my mother’s favorite chapter in the Bible. It’s one of the few that I can quote and is in my heart. As I was driving to Dallas yesterday, it kept going over in my head. I got stuck on “he restores my soul”. I think we all need our soul restored. With everything that has happened since 2020, we all need new life, new energy, new intelligence, we all need our spirits renewed. It’s been difficult for everyone from every walk of life. The first part of the chapter says “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil.” I can definitely relate. With over 1/2 million people dead and more dying, I feel like I am in the valley of death. But the part that Psalmist David says “you are with me” is the best part. It lets me know, that there is hope for restoration and that God never leaves us or forsakes us. This is the valley of the shadow of death but we need to press on and fear no evil. We need to know that our soul will be restored and that goodness and mercy will come. This was David’s prayer and it’s mine too. Drop a ❤️ if it’s yours too. #SundaySermon #DealingtoHealing

Don’t fight the feeling (8/20/21)

Fighting feelings are always tough but fighting intuition is really dismissing a blessing. Remember that prayer you prayed? Your answer just may be in your intuition guiding you to something better or saving you from someone or something. My mother called this her sixth sense. I learned at an early age to know when the gut was talking to me but I’ve dismissed it so many times, that I know my guardian angel shakes their head with grace. But this week, I did not dismiss it. I actually canceled a trip to Las Vegas to take a journey to see people that I felt I needed to see. To check off my bucket list. To find out some answers and to heal. Because don’t we all need that? Answers, checks by our bucket lists and healing? Remember this the next time you get that gut feeling. You don’t have to explain it, justify it, or get permission, just go with your gut and know that you are listening to the only person that matters. You! #dealingtohealing

The Security Blanket (8/19)

Growing up did you have a favorite childhood blanket? I did! It started out brand new and really nice but by the time I was 5 or 6 years old, it looked awful. It had holes in it, strings coming off it, it had been washed 100 times and looked like it was ready for the trash can. I remember my mother trying to toss it but I was not letting that happen. No! I loved that blanket no matter how worn or torn or raggedy it looked, it was my security. People are also like childhood blankets. We pick a partner and we are so in love with them. We love everything about them. We want to be with them all the time, go on trips with them, and basically not leave home without them, much like carrying our childhood security blanket around. Over time, we care a little bit less about the partner that we picked because we begin to see they’re not as attractive as they were in the beginning, we begin to see holes in them, the beauty starts to fade. But instead of getting a new partner, we keep hanging on to them because it’s our security blanket. No matter how toxic, ugly, or raggedy they become we just keep hanging on to them because that’s our security blanket. That partner or person in your life that is toxic, the mask has fallen off, the real deal has been exposed…LET THEM GO! Get rid of them like you would your childhood blanket. They no longer serve a purpose. They do not keep you secure. They are really just a bunch of threads just barely intact. They are really just gone. Let go of what’s already gone. #dealingtohealing

My hardest lessons (8/18)

The hardest lessons in life for me is to learn you cannot help everyone because some people don’t want help. You cannot save everyone because some people don’t know they are drowning. You can’t love everyone because some people are not lovable. You have to treat them like a lion when they think they’re a house cat. You can’t believe everyone because some people believe their own lies. You can’t trust everyone because some people are just not honest. You can’t loose yourself by trying to fix everyone’s problems. #dealingtohealing