Healing yourself can be offensive

A friend recently sent this to me. I have read it several times. As I read it, I think about people in my past that took advantage of my lack of boundaries, my lack of self respect, of me walking on eggshells to keep from rocking the boat, saying “yes” while biting my tongue and really meaning “no”. Allowing them to push me into guilt and shame. Using fear based doctrine to manage me. Being controlling and gas lighting me. And now, none of those people are in my life. I took my life back and control of my life and one by one they left. When I stopped walking on egg shells, started honoring my feelings, speaking up and out, saying no and giving zero reason why, and setting boundaries that were clear, they disappeared. People will stay around and hang out as long as you let your brokenness benefit them. I encourage you to do a check list of who is benefiting and start being offensive to them.