From Loving to Leaving

Not everyone will like or love this version of you. You will notice folks get quieter when you start setting boundaries and living life for you. Phone calls and visits get further apart and eventually, communication just stops. They’ve gone from loving you to liking you to leaving you because you started standing up for you.

I evaluate my relationships from time to time, basically when I have time. Many have fallen out of my life in the last 2 years because I stopped giving. I stopped giving myself, my time, my money, and my life to them. I started saying things like, “the road travels both ways, come see me.” They didn’t. I started saying, “the phone rings both ways, call me.” They never called me. The 80/20 stopped. I stopped giving 80 for them to only consistently give 20.

The way my life is going, it’s moving pretty fast. Today I may be driving a Toyota and tomorrow I may be driving a Rolls Royce. When you get on your path of high vibration and you know that it’s your time and season of return from losses, nothing surprises you. The only ones surprised are the ones you lose.

And all that has happened to me and for me is all because of one thing, I stopped putting my energy into others and started putting it into me and protecting my boundaries. It’s not exclusive to me, it’s for you and everyone. All we gotta do is just wake up every day and focus on ourselves. We are not here to make others comfortable or happy.

And if you believe you need that one person or anyone to feel fulfilled, well you don’t. Trust me on that one. You got you and that’s all you need. Take care and love you and watch what happens.

Published by Dana

Creative writer about my life and life lessons. Survivor of abandonment, addiction, narcissist relationships, and trauma. Still dealing while I'm healing. Thank you Jesus!

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