Are you born a narcissist?

How does one become a narcissist? A question inquiring minds want to know. A child is not born a narcissist but becomes one by being born into a family or having caretakers that don’t have empathy for the child. They can’t support the child emotionally. Often this is the position of the mother. However, this alone is not what makes a narcissist. It’s the combination of not having the child’s emotional needs met and they are admired, praised very highly for something they do or even their looks. This can range from academics, sports, to beauty pageants. They get a lot of attention for not who they are but what they do or how they look or behave.

Usually, by the age of 7 years old they have split off from their individual, real, raw self to the child that is constantly praised. They never mature emotionally as an adult. This is why when you meet a narcissist they are very much childlike.

Now it makes sense why the narcissist needs constant supply aka attention which comes in the forms of families, friends, social media, coworkers, any person that gives them attention.

If you think you are in a relationship with a narcissist or you have a family member that is a narcissist. This information is maybe helpful to know how they were raised. Many times the golden child is a narcissist. Hope this helps someone today.

Published by Dana

Creative writer about my life and life lessons. Survivor of abandonment, addiction, narcissist relationships, and trauma. Still dealing while I'm healing. Thank you Jesus!

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