I recently watched Oprah Winfrey’s interview, with Viola Davis. It is a Netflix special that I highly recommend. If you are an empath, a compassionate person then have tissues. It is mind-blowing what she survived. I cannot wait to read her story.
Viola said so much that resonated with me. She said Happiness is a journey. She thought when she got this role or got that award or became bigger and better that she would be in “her happy place”. But what she’s learned after being one if not the best black actresses in Hollywood is that it’s not true. Climbing the ladder and getting to the top does not make you happier.
I believe climbing to the top and being the best often puts so much pressure on us to stay in that position and to fight devils on that level that we never imagined. When they say bigger is not better, I believe that.
We think if we can just get the account, just get the promotion, just get the house, the car, the perfect man or woman, we will be fulfilled and happy. We think that somehow this magic we dream about is going to change our life. Not true!
The magic comes when you enjoy where you are at the moment. If we are always chasing more then we miss where are present. We complain about aging but aren’t we the ones wishing our life away because we are chasing ideas that don’t and won’t fulfill us?
Let’s learn from those ahead on the path, from the successors who are less ego and more transparent about what it is like at the top. Let’s believe them and enjoy where we are on our path and quit believing that bigger is better and magic happens ahead on the journey. Embrace that happiness is a journey.