None of Your Business

That quote is so accurate. If we could only accept it and embrace it for exactly what it is then we could correct a lot of issues.

Being the child of a narcissist I’ve been taught that people’s opinions matter. As a child of a narcissist, I was merely an extension of my mother. The image was everything. Gotta look perfect every single day because I reflected her. Everything from clothes, skin, hair, and nails must look exceptional to maintain the image.

As an abandoned child, I wanted to be accepted and liked and based my value on what people thought about me. If I was picked last for the kickball team, I viewed it as I was last because I wasn’t good but I should’ve viewed it as they saved the best for last. Perception is everything!

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. (Proverbs 23:7)

It’s taken a lot of healing and time for me to accept that what people think about me is none of my business. It works both ways. If they think I’m great, wonderful, fun, inspirational, etc…that is just their opinion of me. It does not make it true. If they think I’m hateful, mean, ugly, impatient, etc..that is their opinion of me and that does not make it true.

Our value is never placed in the minds and hearts of others. Our value is based on what we think we are and how we treat people. We put way too much emphasis on what other people think of us. We are emphasizing “likes”, “followers” “views” and more on social media status than we are on our selves.

What value are you if you got a new pair of red-bottom shoes, got into your new Mercedes’ and went to lunch at Capital Grill if you don’t believe in yourself and have a black heart? We got folks jumping to “like” and “heart” pictures because our ego is more important than our substance.

It doesn’t matter what people think of you. Their thoughts are their thoughts and their thoughts are none of our business. That’s their business. We gotta stay rooted in who we are and not allow people to put a value on us. Their opinion doesn’t pay your bills! Believe in yourself and remember what others think of you is none of your business.

Published by Dana

Creative writer about my life and life lessons. Survivor of abandonment, addiction, narcissist relationships, and trauma. Still dealing while I'm healing. Thank you Jesus!

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