Yesterday I blogged Are You Helping Make the Kool-Aid? in reference to listening to toxic family and friends of victims. Are you part of an audience by listening and interacting with the accuser or perhaps you are an enabler?
I would like to continue on the same subject but expand and talk about enabling. Since it’s Holy Week I think it’s a great time to point out that Pontius Pilate was an enabler. In Mark 15:12 he asked the crowd “What shall I do, then, with the one you call the king of the Jews?” Pilate asked them. He was referring to Jesus even though he knew Jesus and knew he was not guilty. Then Pilate said to the chief priests and the crowds, “I find no guilt in this man.” Luke 23:4. Pilate said this three times but because he wavered in his belief, he listened to the crowd.
If we believe that a person we truly love is not guilty of what a toxic accuser accuses them of then there would never be a reason for us to listen “crucify them.” If we listen and become an audience that enables that essentially means we are no better than Pilate who ultimately was helping make the Kool-Aid by having Jesus crucified.
Pilate knew Jesus and he knew that he shouldn’t be crucified but he fell to the toxic crowd. He enabled them by listening and respecting their wishes. As I say over and over, listen to your gut, your intuition, sticking with what you know will never get you in trouble, it’s when we are sucked in by folks that want you to believe them over what you know.
I don’t know about you but I don’t want to be an enabler, part of crucifying someone, a Pontius Pilate, a sheep led by toxic accusers, a Kool-Aid maker.