Resisting change is our norm and I believe the older we get the more challenging it becomes. But why do we resist it? Fear perhaps due to the unknown. Changes in relationships, friends, and family all can be especially challenging, painful, and instill fear.
I’ve had more changes with relationships in the past 2 years than in my entire life. Changes in losing loved ones, family, changes with friends, and even professional relationships. When I question the changes I conclude these reasons for changes.
- That life is just one chapter after another.
- We know that we are born to live and die with no guarantee of another minute. As painful as that is, we know it and have to accept it.
- Pain drives the actions of people that have nothing to do with us.
- It’s none of our business what people think about us. Their thoughts are their thoughts.
- We are all on different paths and we can’t all stay together.
If we all stay together all the time then we can never meet another teacher or teach another student. If all the ballplayers stay together after the Super Bowl or World Championship then they can never teach the others how to achieve such a high level of winning. I think we are dispersed to others to teach and help those that need us. I believe it’s part of connecting the dots. If we stay in the same relationships and places then we can never move to the next dot.
When we think that life is turning upside down, a chapter has closed, a relationship has dissolved or moved away then we need to try to allow it. Know there is another dot coming soon. And as we journey to the next dot there is space and in that space we are alone. Alone to hear answers to our prayers, soul searching and preparing for the next chapter, the next dot. We can’t see it yet but it’s there. Trust it, believe it and watch for it. Allow what it is and what it shall be.