For years I’ve known about Louise Hay. My shrink introduced me to her affirmation cards and often referred to her in our sessions. She has passed now but her legacy continues. I recently listened to one of her podcasts. She talked about the power of self-love. She listed ten things that can help you to embrace who you are and love yourself. I’ll be writing about them over the next few days.
First, she said Stop Criticizing Yourself. When we visualize the worst about us and allow our insecurities to speak to us, this is not a form of self-love. I often hear people call themselves dumb, stupid, fat, and criticize their minds and body. If you wouldn’t say it to your mother or best friend then don’t say it to yourself.
I believe that being hard on ourselves and telling ourselves that we don’t look good, we didn’t sound good or we messed something up is our inner wound coming out. Maybe you were called names as a child or you were bullied. Maybe you were just like me and not called names but just not encouraged or given compliments by caretakers and adults.
Insecurities have underlying stress. We are stressed wanting to know if we are enough and making comparisons just makes it worse. Please don’t call yourself names, beat yourself up for mistakes, and quit making comparisons. God doesn’t make mistakes and he didn’t make one when he made you. You are always enough and you are special so please don’t compare. Love yourself!