That is a quote that will make you say amen or ouch. What is grace? Giving allowance that we want to be given. We all make mistakes, have triggers that bring up our traumas, and childhood wounds. And with all of our similarities, we all have issues, a dysfunction that causes us pain as well as people we love. That alone is enough!
But there’s more, we have grief from losses. I’m guessing everyone reading this right now has lost someone they know during the pandemic. We don’t just grieve over death but we grieve over losses of relationships, including friendships, marriages, families not speaking over politics, and vaccines. Then the financial losses breed fear. Speaking of fear, fear will keep you up at night and stress you out like nothing you’ve ever experienced.
If you haven’t resonated with anything so far, you can stop reading now. What I’m about to say is if you resonate with any of what I’ve said, then you have experienced it. If you’ve experienced any of it, some of it, or all of it, you’ve allowed your emotions to dictate your decisions. Decisions from your triggers and traumas. You’ve snapped, cut people off, cussed people out, acted a fool at people you love because of childhood wounds, fear, and sleepless nights. I’ve done it and you have too!
And when we put our head on the pillow at night and we realize we’ve allowed our stuff, our emotion to cause someone else pain, we expect grace. We expect and want grace which is undeserved, unmerited, unearned favor.
Grace and love are a package deal. Maybe the reason some folks cannot give grace is that they do not love themselves and give grace to themselves. They do not meet themselves where they are at because they are playing the game of comparison. They do not trust their DNA and path. They are holding the cards of bitterness, jealousy, envy, guilt, anger, and resentment. Holding those cards will never allow love and grace.
I’m trying to practice what I preach and that’s I’m not a finished product and I need grace given to me every single day. For me to receive it, I’ve got to give it to get it. That’s how it works! If you want love, give love. If you want peace, give peace and if you want grace for all your inconsistencies, give grace.
1 Peter 4:10
Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. (NIV)