Love Lessons

Happy New Year to you! As you may have read on social media or in my blog last Sunday that I’m doing a media detox for January. Before the ball dropped last night, I turned off the television last night at approximately 11 pm and turned on Bishop T. D. Jake’s New Year’s Eve service. My number one goal for 2022 is to be guided on my spiritual path and serve my purpose. Bishop Jakes said if you wanna know if you’re serving your purpose, not only will you be blessed but you will be blessing others.

As I have blogged many times before we are not just here to work, pay bills, and buy material things. We are here to help each other, pay forward our blessings and not only say we love each other but show love. I often think we overuse the phrase “I love you” because do we show love as much as we say it? In 2022 I’m watching for words and actions to match. If you say you love me, show me. Remember the 5 Love Languages are:

• Words of Affirmation
• Acts of Service
• Receiving gifts
• Quality Time
• Physical Touch

I think having these 5 love languages on a post-it note on our bathroom mirror or on our refrigerator or wherever we see them daily can serve as a reminder to us that we need to show love to those we love.

We must also remember that each person can only love to their capacity. Some are 10 gallons and some are pint-size. If we are a 10-gallon person and we are not getting enough love from a pint-size person then just know they are giving their all and that’s all they can do.

And some people will only love you conditionally. Constituents – They are not into you; they are into what you are for. Comrades – These people are not for you, nor are they for what you are for. It is just that they are against what you are against.

You will have only a very few Confidants in your life. They usually equate to 4-6 in your lifetime. The same amount of posts that hold up a deck. This is all you need.

And let’s not forget that sometimes we pour so much into folks we love and never get back what we need because they are toxic, cross boundaries and lack respect. This is called “Watering Weeds”.

I believe we can all agree that what the world needs now is more love. We need to not only say it but do it and know the lessons in love. Knowing the languages, people’s capacities, and knowing that some people only love you for what you are for or against should always serve as a reminder that some are just for a season and/or a reason. And some are just weeds no matter how much you love them, they are never going to bloom. Yes! These are the lessons in love.