I watched Adele and her interview with Oprah last night. So much of what Adele said resonated with me that it brought me to tears. She talked about her father being an alcoholic which is an abandonment wound. A parent choosing an addiction is choosing that substance over the child. The parent may be physically there but they have left the child emotionally. My mother chose pills as her addiction. She never left home without them except once, when my child was born. She came to visit me out of state 550 miles away. My sister made the drive and brought her. They were there less than 24 hours and mom realized she had forgotten her pills. There was so much drama and it was such an ordeal that my sister took her back home. My mother couldn’t even enjoy her grandchild due to her addiction to pills. Needless to say, it was another heartbreak for me. I’m 550 miles away from my family at 28 years old with a newborn and she leaves me.
Adele also talked about her child inner wound and how her therapist told her to sit with her 7-year-old self. She did that and also sat with herself while healing for 2 years. I’ve been told those exact words from my shrink. She’s often demonstrated to me snuggling with my demons. Recognizing them and hovering over my younger self. It’s a hard task to sit and heal while not bringing anybody into your stuff. I admire Adele and anybody that can just sit still with it. Not many people can be still. They feel the need to be moving and grooving. That’s to avoid the pain. The feeling is healing!
And while she was being still she discovered her real self. She discovered after losing almost 100 pounds, that she was an athlete. She found out that her anxiety was controlled by working out and lifting weights. I completely understand that! Whenever I stop working out, I am miserable.
I encourage everyone to sit with themselves and discover the new you. Allow yourself to feel so you can heal.