I’ve only written about narcissists 3 times since I started blogging. I avoid it for several reasons but one of those is many do not truly understand the red flags, warning signs and traits. And although I want to educate and lights to come on, I am not a professional, a psychologist or counselor so I can only tell you from my experiences. I’m not going to tell you that your partner/parent is a narcissist based on my personal experiences. I will tell you that my experiences include a narcissist parent and a long term narcissist relationship which gives me over 50 years of experience. If I’m applying for a job based on my resume, I’m getting it due to my experience.
Here are some red flags you need to consider to find out if your partner is a narcissist.
🚩 You’re walking on eggshells – trying to keep the peace; spending energy to avoid what will set them off
🚩They lie – exaggerate and embellish stories to make you jealous, to build their image. Make promises with no intention of keeping them. Always an excuse or an alibi.
🚩 They’re addicts – they will have an addiction. Alcohol, narcotics, porn, sex, and often more than one. And note they will be a functioning addict. This is because the image is everything to them. They can’t be seen as a drunk or having an issue.
🚩 You are ONLY an extension of them. It’s their schedule, what they want, when they want it, how they want it, where they want it. They are controlling and it’s not always obvious. It’s a silent expectation.
The narcissist is what I call a large elephant and the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. You’ve got 4 bites to chew on until next time.
🚩One VERY IMPORTANT note! Do not confront, ask or question someone you may think is a narcissist. They can be extremely dangerous and that should only be handled by your professional.