I’ve been thinking this week about the leading news story regarding the young woman who was found dead and her boyfriend is missing. It’s bothered me and triggered some pain for me due to being a survivor from a narcissist relationship(s).
When I see the video of her crying, the “meltdown”, I know he crossed her boundaries. Her emotional pain is equivalent to being a rape victim. Narcissists know zero boundaries. Nothing applies to them. They will continue to gaslight until you are doing exactly what she was doing, having an emotional breakdown. And when the cops came, he called her “crazy”, it was “her fault”, they deflect everything to their victim. They are passive-aggressive controlling. Expert on controlling without saying a word.
I don’t profess to be an expert, I’m not a psychologist or counselor but I’m a survivor with over 50 years of experience and I’m confident I know about narcissists. If I could give one piece of advice, be aware of when someone crosses your boundaries. They do not respect you. Your feelings, your thoughts, your individuality does not matter to them. You are only an extension of them. Pay attention to those who cross your boundaries because they might just be a narcissist.