A is for Abandonment as an Adult

I would like to share information and educate everyone from an adult’s perspective on what happens to a child that is abandoned. When a child no longer has their mother or father either physically or emotionally, it is not for that period that it affects the child. It continues to affect the child until the grave. When a parent leaves a child rather it’s divorce, death, or complete abandonment, the emotional issues are like a domino effect. If the parent is physically present but gone emotionally due to narcotics, work, or whatever the case, it has the same effect. Abandonment from your caregiver is so detrimental. It causes the adult to build walls and not be vulnerable. It causes supersensitivity, insecurities in your relationships, trouble trusting, jealousy, detachment, control issues, self-esteem issues, fear, depression, anxiety, and the list goes on. If you only have one or two of these issues as an adult or child, that’s a lot but most adults have more than two. Most have a long list. It’s a long list that causes trauma for decades. To those that have never had a caretaker abandoned you, you are blessed, lucky and you should give thanks. I encourage you to educate yourself on this subject because more than likely you’ll have a relationship in your lifetime with someone that’s been abandoned. You’ll need to know the possible issues in that relationship. To those who have been abandoned. I am so sorry! I understand your pain and your issues. I want to write more on this subject because in my opinion it’s not talked about enough. In the meantime and until next time, if you know of a child or adult that has been abandoned, please show compassion and grace. Love them as best you can. Please don’t be so quick to judge and understand their triggers if possible. Everyone is fighting a battle, you know nothing about.