Jealousy and envy are not words I identify with easily. I’m generally always happy for someone who has more than me or is doing better than me. I’ve always viewed it as I was fortunate to be their friend so they could share their blessing with me. So when I speak on this subject of being jealous, it’s not something I have personally overcome.
I have been a victim to those with jealousy issues. I’ve learned that people believe because you are the same age, type of job, or same circles that you are living in similar worlds. But when one person moves forward, it’s a game-changer.
Have you ever seen a group of barflies, that meet day after day, week after week for years, and then one day somebody is absent? One decides to stop drinking every day and to participate in other things such as his son’s football game, work, or a date night with his wife. When he makes better choices than a bar fly, he is improving his quality of life and the other flies are upset because he no longer joins in the group. I’ve seen it with football teams too. One player gets 15 plays and the other guy who plays the same position, gets fewer plays and he’s mad because he didn’t get the same or more plays. Instead of learning from the guy who is better and gets more plays, he quits the team. He’s jealous of the guy that is better than him or moved ahead of him. Neither guy is celebrated for being better. When one moves forward, when someone is doing better in life, making better choices, we should be happy for them. We should not be haters. If we want to change our life and receive blessings, let’s be happy for people. Let them share their blessing with you. Encourage, support, and learn from them.
If you’re reading this and you identify as a victim of people’s jealousy, I encourage you to not look back. I applaud you that you are not stuck, you are moving forward and you’re receiving blessings. Maybe it was easy for you or maybe you just made it look easy. Either way, I’d rather be thankful for the hell I don’t look like I’ve been through than to be stuck and jealous.