Do you know the definition of integrity? The first definition of Merriam Webster’s dictionary says “firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values”’. My definition is the true individual when they think nobody is looking.
I have as a background picture on one of my social media accounts the words “You’d be surprised who’s watching your journey. Don’t quit!” Isn’t there someone always watching? Remember Tess in Oceans Eleven said You of all people should know, Terry, in your hotel, there’s always someone watching.
I believe there is always someone watching or at the very least paying attention. Typically people watchers do not make an announcement. They sit quietly observing, scrutinizing and critiquing people’s moves. Much like our mothers knew everything we did behind their backs like they had eyeballs in the back of their head. We think they don’t know but they know.
And whatever people do when they think nobody is paying attention, that’s the truest form of that person. That’s about as raw as we will ever see them because they think nobody is watching.
Let’s jump to Maya Angelou’s famous quote, “When someone tells you who they are, believe them.” I know we don’t want to believe but believe them. Believe that you are witnessing the truest form of someone, believe the narrative they paint to give themselves a label. Believe that they think you don’t know. They often believe their own lies, therefore they think you do too.
Believe me when I say someone is always watching. What is it you are doing when you think nobody’s paying attention? What is it that we are doing when we think nobody is looking? Understanding our true selves, even when we think no one is watching is part of the healing journey and self acceptance.
Dealing to Healing 