The Helper

To know an Enneagram type two is to love them. If you know a “Helper”, then you know, you always have somebody in your corner to empathetically listen, help you with projects, and always be willing to go out of their way.

Living in an average healthy range we will find type two people becoming overly friendly. They attempt to win others by giving attention, approval, and flattery. They often cannot do enough for others. Wearing themselves out for everyone. They will create needs for themselves to fill so others can depend on them.

When under stress or moving to more unhealthy levels they will become resentful and complain bitterly. They do this because they feel unappreciated and unwanted. They fear losing others and play on their guilt and weaknesses. They may stuff their feelings by abusing food and medications.

Their basic desire is to be loved so naturally their basic fear is not being loved or wanted. And their hidden complaint is: I am always loving, although people don’t love me as much as I love them. I am taken for granted and unappreciated.

Does this describe someone you know? Someone in your family, coworker, friend, or you? Learn more about types by reaching out to me via social media or

Published by Dana

Creative writer about my life and life lessons. Survivor of abandonment, addiction, narcissist relationships, and trauma. Still dealing while I'm healing. Thank you Jesus!

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