“Money Back Guaranteed” are strong words that get our attention. I worked for a hospitality icon years ago who put a sign on every restaurant table “Satisfaction Guaranteed or 110% Money Back Guaranteed”. This held every team member to a higher standard, from the dishwasher, making sure each wine glass was clean of lipstick to the hostess greeting all guests upon entrance. Our service and food were guaranteed or your money back plus 10%.
As consumers, we embrace those words because it gives us comfort in knowing that in the event we don’t like it or it changes from what we expect, then we are going to get a refund.
Unfortunately, many have the same expectations with people. Many expect people to change in what they want. If you meet someone with personality disorders, issues that you are not fond of, or habits that drive you crazy, you are not getting a refund on the relationship, friendship, or marriage. If you meet them with it, except that’s who they are, what they are, and if you cannot accept them then remove them. Expecting them to change or a money-back guaranteed is only you believing in your delusion. If you think you are going to get what you want or get better by them changing is a waste of our energy.
Accepting and loving people for who they are is the most wonderful gift you can give someone. We are all original like the snowflakes that fall in a blizzard. Just because each snowflake is different doesn’t make it less beautiful. Just because each one lands differently doesn’t give it less value. Accept your relationships for what they are and meet people where they are on their path. Friends, family, and relationships do not come with a money-back guaranteed policy.