Being comfortable often breeds complacency and it will mess your life up in every corner. From the bedroom to the job, if you are complacent you will eventually lose.
T.D. Jakes spoke on complacency last Sunday and he made so many valid points that it’s too many for me to share but I want to highlight the five points he made on complacency.
- You are complacent when you are no longer striving to do your best. If you can’t do your best in all areas then drop some areas in your life. Stretching yourself too thin compromises quality so drop the quantity.
- You’re operating off an old playbook. What was good then might not be good now. If you have been married for 20 years and you have the same bedroom nighty from your honeymoon then ladies y’all better get down to Hustler Hollywood and get with it or someone else will.
- Not seeking to take advantage of new opportunities. Passing up opportunities to invest in yourself will get you looked over, passed over every time. Learn a new skill, take a class, and invest in yourself.
- You are not maintaining contacts or relationships that help you grow. Your new friends ought to make your old friends uncomfortable. Keeping the same circle stunts growth.
- You don’t risk sharing your opinions or ideas for fear of being wrong. If you never speak up then you become a sheep and are happy just following the herd. Great leaders and groundbreakers openly share their ideas.
So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spew thee out of my mouth. Revelation 3:16
Complacency is the same as lukewarm. It’s the same as okay. You’re not hot but you’re not cold. You’re not doing good but you’re not doing bad.
I worked for an icon in the hospitality business when I was in my 20s. He had a rule that we must not ever ask a guest if everything is okay. We were to ask “How is everything?” because asking one if “it’s okay” equated to mediocre. He never wanted his food or service to be mediocre.
Being mediocre, okay, and complacent will compromise opportunities. Don’t miss your next dot, your purpose, your assignment, by being too comfortable and not growing.