Why feeling ignored can trigger us so badly.

This is exactly how it feels to be abandoned.

Use Your Damn Skills

Feeling ignored can trigger something very specific in a complex trauma survivor’s nervous system.

A lot of our woundedness tends to revolve around the feeling that we were unwanted or unimportant to the people who were supposed to want us, care for us, protect us, love us.

When we get the feeling in our adult lives that we’re being ignored, that we are dispensable— it pokes at that wound. Hard.

It’s not a matter of feeling “entitled” to attention.

To the contrary: many complex trauma survivors struggle to feel they are entitled to ANY attention or care at all.

Our conditioning has often left us believing we don’t “deserve” love— or, often, even to take up the space we take up, to breathe the air we breathe.

The reason feeling ignored or unimportant triggers so many complex trauma survivors so badly is, it activates a very specific fear of abandonment…

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Published by Dana

Creative writer about my life and life lessons. Survivor of abandonment, addiction, narcissist relationships, and trauma. Still dealing while I'm healing. Thank you Jesus!

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