The old me hung onto every word that just about anybody told me. I believed every time someone said they loved me, complimented me, said they were supporting me. I trusted their words, didn’t watch for the action or lack of one, and dismissed my energy.
The new me is not so much a listener. I’m now a watcher and a feeler. I’m watching if your words match your actions. I’m trusting my energy that says “lies”, “fake”, “ulterior motives”, “jealous”, “hater “ and “don’t trust it”. I’m feeling their energy over their words. I am also watching for red flags 🚩. I am the red flag 🚩 police now. I’m not giving tickets or citations but just because I’m quiet doesn’t mean I am not aware.
We have to be aware of people’s energy, especially those closest to us. We just can’t believe everyone that says they love us. Some folks only say they love us so they can love to hate on us behind our backs. We must pay attention to those backhanded compliments. Jealousy rears its ugly head when one moves forward and exudes confidence in their path. But we don’t apologize for the confidence because when you know, you know, and nobody can break you.
I believe an individual is only as good as the support they receive. If you’re never supported and cheered for your successes and accomplishments then it’s very easy to slip down the slippery slope of going backward. I’m talking to anyone on a recovery path. If you’ve turned over a new leaf, rather you’ve quit substance abuse, left a domestic situation, cut toxic relationships, went no contact with a narcissist, or whatever it is, you should be celebrated. Watch and feel the energy for those “friends” or folks in your circle not clapping for you. Remember that salt looks like sugar and the devil was once an angel so don’t get it confused.