I wish my younger self had known this quote 20, 30 years ago. If only I had told those people to sail on down the line who said “that’s your mother, that’s your sister, that’s your employer, that’s your friend”. If I had just not let those people shame and guilt me into letting the toxic ones stay in my life. Wow! My life would’ve turned out different. Although, I wouldn’t have my story today for someone else’s survival guide. Which I am grateful for my purpose.
If what I am saying resonates with you, you’re made to feel guilty about keeping someone in your life and they are toxic. Which means they cause you pain and stress. It doesn’t matter who they are, you have permission to remove them.
And ask for the replacements. God has sent me friends that are better than my toxic family and friends. When I say better I mean they invite me over for holidays, check on me, support me emotionally, accept me for who I am, every bit of my good and bad. But you must keep your eyes wide open and watch for the replacements. I’ve met my replacements at different jobs, at restaurants, the Goodwill, one was a former employer.
If you are serious about healing and having a better quality of life. This is a must in your toolbox. Remove the toxics and love yourself. ❤️