People will suck the life out of you

True story! You can loose yourself trying to please others, living for others. Let me talk to the empaths, codependent folks, the people pleasers. Feeling that you want or need to make people happy is a curse and a blessing. Like a quote that someone sent me this morning, “Know your limits on how much you can give, because some people don’t have a limit on how much they can take!” You are a blessing to those that give back, that’s called a relationship. But if you are doing the majority of giving and they are not reciprocating, they are a taker. Takers take, that’s what they do. They take everything! I’ve had them take my time, my energy, my counseling skills, my mind, my heart, my life. You can give so much of you slowly that you loose yourself. And when you loose yourself in those people, it’s like a slow weaving web. You don’t even realize it until you’re caught all the way up in it. I knew when I was caught in it, because I felt exhausted. It’s exhausting to always “feel” like you need to answer that phone call, reply back to that email or text immediately. It’s exhausting to counsel people through all their drama. It’s exhausting to even listen to it. You’ve heard the saying that “people will suck the life out of you.” They will literally do that. And life is precious. You never get that time back. You never get to erase those minutes, hours, and days. And here’s the most important thing I’m about to tell you, you cannot and will not make them happy. Period! Happiness comes from within not someone else. If you’re reading this and you feel any part of what I’m saying, listen to your intuition. Check your energy around individuals. If you feel exhausted, you might be loosing yourself in a taker. Do you just for a day, then a week, then a month and see who’s still around. The ones that are still with you, that’s your tribe. That’s your relationship folks. The ones that have left, those were the takers. Let them go, find yourself!

Published by Dana

Creative writer about my life and life lessons. Survivor of abandonment, addiction, narcissist relationships, and trauma. Still dealing while I'm healing. Thank you Jesus!

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