I have given access to people to elevate them, to encourage them, and I’ve even tried to drag them down a better path because I saw more in them than they saw in themselves.
I wear those jewels in my crown proudly because of my access they have benefited. I don’t say it egotistical, I say it with confidence. The same confidence that I know if it wasn’t for those that gave me access to them I wouldn’t be here today.
We must learn the difference between giving access to those who appreciate us by in turn supporting us and being up on the seesaw when we are down. And those who get access to us and abuse it. Abusing people take the meal and leave. They won’t come early to prep the meal because it’s not convenient for them. They just want what we got but don’t expect them to stick around to learn how to get it.
Don’t be fooled by words. Words become emotional abuse when the action doesn’t follow. I don’t care how much you say you love me if you don’t show me.
As someone said to me the other day, “Not everyone can fly with you.” That person saw something in me that even those with all access to me don’t acknowledge.
Honestly, I’d rather talk to a hardcore criminal, a homeless person, or a stranger and allow them access than give access to those who abuse my friendship, my gifts, my wisdom, and the vulnerable parts of me.
It is important to know what we got, and how we contribute positively to other’s lives. We must also know what we’re dealing with because remember takers always take. And we must maintain the boundary to anybody who abuses our all-access and become unreachable.
Dealing to Healing 